Mother’s Day can be especially difficult for those of us that don’t have our mothers with us.
My mom passed away in 2007, and even though it’s coming up on 12 years, Mother’s Day never seems to get any easier.
It’s a bit tougher this year because we lost my mother’s brother this past week. My mom and uncle were very close, and it’s been a week filled with memories of the two of them and the numerous great times our families all had together. She’s on my mind and I’m missing her more than usual.
While it may seem impossible to avoid, Mother’s Day comes around every year, whether we like it or not. Maybe you’ve lost your mother, have a strained relationship with her, or never even knew her. For whatever reason she is not with you, there are ways to cope with Mother’s Day.
Share your wonderful memories with others. Pull out photo albums and mementos and describe each of the special memories that go along with them.
It’s Alright to Say No
If you don’t feel like participating in a Mother’s Day brunch or gathering with friends or family – it is OK to decline. Staying in and reading a good book for the day might be just what you need.
Ignore Social Media
Put down your phone! No Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, etc. Don’t put yourself through all your friends posting photos of their lovely mothers. It doesn’t mean you aren’t happy for them, it just means you’d rather not share in their happiness today.
Speak with Your Mother’s Loved Ones
Reach out to the people your mother was closest to. Maybe it’s a walk down memory lane with your father or siblings, or maybe it’s a chat with your mom’s best friend. It’s not just you that misses her, there are others that do, too.
Write Her a Letter
Express the things you’d like to tell her on a piece of paper. Put down in words what you are feeling, what is new in your life, or even just how much you miss her.
Don’t Feel Guilty
Feel free to go about celebrating your day with your own children or with family and friends, but do not feel guilty about that. Enjoy the day. Especially if you are a mother yourself…you have earned it.